Livin’ On A Prayer

“But you, dear friends, must build each other up in your most holy faith, pray in the power of the Holy Spirit.” Jude 1:20

There is something so powerful about joining in prayer with a brother or sister in Christ. Particularly if you have feelings for that person. It is encouraging and builds each other up in your faith. It also strengthens the relationship by uniting you in spiritual agreement.

When your partner lifts you and the relationship up before God, it shows you their heart. You hear his faith and trust in God. And vice versa. Praying together creates a unique bond and directs the purpose of the relationship. It places Christ at the center of the relationship.

That’s the strong relationship that Ecclesiastes 4:12 is talking about, “Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” 

I’ve heard that scripture used in weddings a hundred times. But it’s not a verse only for marriage. It’s talking about any relationship. When I stand in agreement by faith with one of my girlfriends, we have a stronger bond and know how to hold each other up in prayer. Moreover, if you want a marriage with that kind of “threefold cord” strength, why wouldn’t you start laying that foundation from early on in a relationship?

I can tell you from personal experience that the difference between being around a man who has the boldness to pray with you at every opportunity is night and day from one who doesn’t. The unity and spiritual direction of the relationship is directly effected by praying together. I’ve dated Christian guys that said they were praying for me, as I was for them. And that was all well and good. But for all I knew it could have been a token “you’re in my prayers,” with no follow through.

But then when I had a man ask me to pray with him, out loud, together on a regular basis, it was totally different. I could see his heart for God and his desire to put His will before our desires. I could hear the genuine passion and pursuit of Christ. I could feel his longing for the guidance of Holy Spirit.

In a marriage, one of the husband’s jobs is to be the spiritual head of the home. He is to lead the family closer to God and keep them on the right path. The responsibility for the family’s spiritual direction lies squarely on his shoulders. Therefore, doesn’t it make sense to put a high level of importance on spiritual leadership, boldness, and prayerfulness in a suitor? In fact, this quality/character trait has gone straight to the top of my list!

Moreover, because it is the husband’s job to lead the household spiritually, early on in the relationship, I let the man lead the way on this one. I don’t necessarily initiate praying together because I want to see if he will. I definitely participate. But I want a husband who leads, rather than just heeds my suggestions. The best way to get a husband who leads is by allowing your man to lead during the courtship/dating period. It’s important to see the spiritual maturity and leadership in a man long before you say, “I do.” Also, I don’t ever want to put a potential suitor in a position where he has to fake a relationship with Christ in an attempt to win my heart.

I’ve said this before from the pulpit, and I’ll say it here, too: “I want to be so hidden in Christ that a man has to pursue Jesus whole-heartedly in order to find me.” That kind of hunger and passion for God can’t be forced or fabricated.

A truly godly suitor will pursue his relationship with God first and therefore, lead you in prayer when it’s appropriate. Wait for that kind of man. He is a spiritual leader in the making.

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